Do you know what your man is up to?

There's trust and there's smart trust. I know of a man whom for legitimate reasons should be courting relationships with women outside of his wife, in fact to promote his wife's project. But looking at his online activities, in addition to being privy to his flirtations, I decided to blog about the distinction between "trusting" your man and being "smart while trusting" your man. The difference? "Trusting" your man means you love him and you blindly trust that he respects your relationship/union/together status...and you're usually the last to know about his extracurricular activities: everyone else in the world knows about them before you. I know more women than I care to admit who fit in this category and I pray for their strength as they live their lives the way they choose to or the only way they know how. "Smart trusting" your man means you recognize that men fall to temptation because they are the weaker sex, so you place reasonable limits to let him know you know what he's capable of doing and you're not having it. You subtly monitor his activities just to ensure he's respecting your relationship without being invasive of his life. If this were the case this man I first mentioned would not be conducting the activities he has been thus far.

Is this going too far? That depends on what you want from your relationship: if your "man" is really not the "one" and he's disposable, why put forth all this energy? If you can't trust him why stay with him? If you love him til death do you part then maybe it's worth the work? I can't answer that I can only continue to write about my observations as I struggle in this world myself.